Going through a divorce? Chances are you are feeling devastated and concerned about the future. Don’t worry, because there is hope. Not only will you get through this challenging period and survive, but you might even surprise yourself and emerge transformed.
Divorce is a change and with change comes an opportunity for introspection and growth. If you happen to be in the process of a divorce or even someone who recently went through one, you might be wondering how this is even possible. The ending of a marriage is a loss and something that needs to be grieved first. So, go ahead and feel your feelings. Be enraged, be sad, be confused. You’ll need to mourn and that is okay. It is part of the process.
Eventually you will get to a point where you can take a deep breath, plant your feet firmly on the ground and feel your power and strength. You get to decide who you want to become and what you want your life to look like. Look at it as an opportunity to rediscover yourself.
Maybe you kicked an old hobby to curb once you got married because it did not fit into your relationship well. Why not start it up again? Perhaps you want to try on a new look and cut your hair. Sure, go for it! Maybe you want to date again or explore being single. Whatever it is, it is important to stay true to yourself. Stop and ask yourself if what you are doing feels right and if it will lead you to greater happiness.
Thriving after divorce often requires help and guidance along the way. You do not have to do it alone. Our clinicians at Treehouse can help you on your journey of growth and transformation.
Christine Holmberg, LMFT